But...I'm not a virgin!

Some Christian women often struggle with the issue of virginity. Let’s face it; there are more people in the world who aren’t virgins than those who are. And just because you’re a Christian does not mean that your life is that of Christ’s ALL THE TIME. I mean, it’s impossible to be Holy and Righteous twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. Everyone has a past. But, are Christian men able to see past what HAS BEEN, and focus on what is to come?
This week’s question comes from a young woman who wishes to remain nameless. Her question is this, “I am currently taking a health class and one area of which we have been focusing on is virginity. It mentions two types of virginity, primary and secondary. I wanted to know if a true Christian male would “go out” with or “court” a female based on their virginity.”
This week’s answer is given by Rowan University senior, Blake Cole. “To me, the question is a bit ambiguous--When you say based on their virginity" do you mean based on that female being a virgin or based on her not being a virgin?
Of course the first is the easiest to answer being that if she were a virgin of course a 'true' Christian would be interested because she may be on the same page as him practicing abstinence and celibacy. However, the second outcome of her not being a virgin is quite a different question. In my opinion the question should not be whether she is a virgin or not, but rather IS SHE SAVED? Because if she is saved then her being a virgin or not really doesn’t matter anymore. What matters is that she is saved and if she is saved she would want to do what’s right from then on. So yes, I would court or go out with a female despite her virginity because it’s not her virginity that's the deciding factor or that should be the deciding factor for a 'true' Christian male--it’s whether or not she is saved.”
In Blake’s opinion, “true” Christian men don’t care whether or not his significant other made some wrong choices in her past, and if he does then… he shouldn’t. He should focus on what she’s trying to be right then and there, and what she plans to be in the future.
So, all of you ladies out there who were worried that you wouldn’t find a man because you’re carrying around a scarlet letter, don’t be. Besides, the day you decided to give your life to Christ, He gave you back your purity because you decided to be like Him. So, as long as you have His approval, you don’t need anyone else’s. “Those whose approval you seek most, give you the least”-Rozanne Weissman.